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Our kind, positive and healing words to ourselves are very powerful. Unfortunately we rarely say them when we are in pain. Find a quiet place and take this opportunity treat yourself to them. Downloadable Cheat Sheet Take a deep breath. Assess three parts of your pain before moving forward. 1. Level of pain on scale from one to ten, 2. Type of pain (sharp throbbing etc) and finally 3. The size of the area of pain (grape, orange, grapefruit, cantaloupe, size etc)
Next Repeat OUT LOUD 3 x's
Even though I have this pain I am open to relaxing about it.
Then repeat the following out loud and with calm intention
I am open to feeling comfortable in my body
I am open to feeling relaxed in my body
I am open to feeling at ease in my body
I am open to feeling flexible in my body
I am open to feeling youthful in my body
I am open to feeling energized in my body
Take a breath and go back and measure those same three things again. Notice if it is bigger/smaller or the same, more intense less intense or the same etc. Chances are you are feeling a bit better but we will continue.
Repeat 3xs
Even though I still have some of this pain I am open to relaxing about it
Even though I'm feeling a little better but it is still there I am open to relaxing about it.
Then repeat the following out loud and with calm intention
I am open to feeling comfortable in my body
I am open to feeling relaxed in my body
I am open to feeling at ease in my body
I am open to feeling light in my body
I am open to feeling youthful in my body
I am open to feeling strong in my body
I am open to feeling safe in my body
Go back and check as before. Notice any changes.
I recommend you do this everyday until you feel relief.
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Feeling anything but relaxed and confident puts our mind and body in stress mode. It isn't pleasant and it can cause physical discomfort as well...think of a stress headache.
Your positive kind words are powerfully healing. Intend to have a new relaxing perspective. For this exercise It is important to write down what your challenge is and how you are feeling BEFORE & AFTER so you can track your progress. Ready?
Find a quiet place and take a deep breath...
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Step 1
Think of an issue bothering you. Decide how much it bothers you on a scale 1- 10 one represents you are relaxed 10 represents you are losing sleep.. Write it down
Step 2
Decide how you feel about it (angry, anxious etc) Write it down
Step 3 Repeat out loud with intent
“Even though I feel this way I’m open to relaxing about it.
Even though I WANT to feel this way (keep reading) I’m open to relaxing about it.
Now that doesn’t make sense! BUT I’ve been feeling this way for a while.
So maybe a TINY part of me WANTS to feel this way…
but, that’s OK I am still open to relaxing about it anyway”
Step 4 Repeat Affirmations
“I am open to feeling empowered to move forward freely
in a way that feels comfortable and just right for me.
I am open to new inspirations and new ideas as to how to do this.
I’m open to being surprised as to how quickly I figure it out,
and how easy it was and how good it felt and how fun it was : )
I am open to feeling this way if I want...I’m the boss of my emotions –
but it doesn’t feel very good so maybe I change my mind ...OR NOT!
Maybe I WANT to feel bothered, maybe I don’t –
Maybe I WANT to feel empowered – maybe I don’t -
Either way I’m OK no matter what I choose”
Step 5
I am open to feeling bothered and Empowered at the SAME TIME.
Think of your problem again. Access a lighter way to look at it. Repeat until you feel lighter. Journal any new perspectives you have. Move to the next challenge.
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03.
If you feel stuck and overwhelmed in a situation and need clarity in an area of life this exercise will help. You can also find a Downloadable Cheat Sheet here.
In this moment though, first find a quiet place and take a moment to answer this question first
"On a scale of 1 to 10 how much does it bother me that I feel stuck and overwhelmed"? Choose a number then complete the RELAXED EMOTION exercise above - then come back to this exercise to get practical steps to move forward
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Now that you have relaxed about your situation take the following steps to get clarity and answers.
1. Answer the following True/False questions as honestly as you can:
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I'm going to be able to figure this out T/F
It's going to be easier than I thought to figure out T/F
It's going to be harder than I thought to figure out T/F
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2. If you answered False to any of the questions or had a weak True, answer the following questions:
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The fact that I don't have all the answers right now is going to keep me from succeeding T/F
The fact that it is going to be harder than I thought to figure out will keep me from succeeding T/F
The fact that it is not going to easier than I thought to figure out will keep me from succeeding T/F
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If you are like most you are feeling a little breathing room around this issue. That is enough to take the next step.
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3. Answer the next few questions...write down your answers
"What is the next logical step you can take that will move you forward comfortably?" write it down
You can do this step? T/F
Imagine that you have taken that step...what would the next logical action step you can take to move forward comfortably?
You can do this step? T/F
Imagine that the previous step has been accomplished...now what would be the next logical step you can take to move you forward comfortably?
You can do this step? T/F
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You now you have your next action steps and the confidence that you can accomplish them.
Do this for each stage of your project or situation to create clarity and or anytime you feel stuck,
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If you are feeling stuck it is because you are still emotionally charged about the situation...repeat the relaxing emotion exercise again or say the healing prayer below, it is powerful. Then come back to t his exercise.
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I learned this simple prayer that is very powerful each time I use it I am surprised at the results. Follow the next few steps. You can also find a Downloadable version of this prayer
Int the meantime though,
1. Think of something that is bothering you or that has bothered you for a long time. Measure the intensity of how you feel on a scale of 1-10 in this very moment. 1 means you are relaxed about it and 10 means you are losing sleep.
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2. Take a deep breath. Access the intense emotion you are feeling about your situation or something that has been troubling you for awhile.
3. Repeat this prayer
Jesus I ask that you take this emotion from me
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Take a moment and allow him to take it from you. Tune into your emotions
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Then ask
Jesus I ask that you heal the part of my soul that it (the emotion) wounded
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Take a moment to allow Him to heal it.
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Check back in to see if you feel lighter. Repeat until you feel lighter about it.
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Thank Jesus for helping.
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05.
When my eldest daughter passed away from cancer in 2018 I experienced excruciating pain in my body heart and soul that nothing could relieve and I tried it ALL. Even the techniques that I had used in my life up until that point to overcome traumatic stress and social phobia left me wanting and hurting. After four months and much prayer and searching for relief I discovered a book "The Grief Recovery Handbook" which had practical steps to heal your heart after loss. I felt immediate relief from the crushing weight I had been feeling for months. After taking those action steps relief was so profound that I became a Grief Recovery Method Specialist. Read More...
If you have any questions after reading the book and going through the exercises or want to know more about the process book a Free Consultation.
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Learn how to tap on accupressure points to help calm your mind and body. This technique helped me overcome; panic attacks, social phobia, PTSD and depression, You can download the cheat sheet here or purchase the step by step digital audio video program and DVD.
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